Why have a sex party?
Maybe you're thinking, how can I go to a fun, classy, orgy? And, someday soon I'm going to tell you. But the easiest way to get into an orgy is to throw one yourself.
'Okay,' you're saying, 'that's all well and good, Cleo. But where do I start? How do I find people to attend? How many people should I invite? If it was soooo easy to have an awesome sex party, then everyone would do it!' I get it. It's scary and complicated to host a party unlike anything you've ever attended. And that is why I want to take some time to talk about how to throw a sex party.
How to think about a sex party
A sex party is just a party.
Sure, the entire premise of it is that you are violating the almost universal taboo against having sex in front of other people, sometimes with strangers. But leaving that aside for a moment, all of the things that make any party good and memorable also apply here.
i.e. At minimum:
You need a location that is amenable to the party activities
You need to invite guests who are trustworthy and compatible (w/ you, & w/ each other)
You need to schedule it at a sensible time, and give people ample notice
You need to provide appropriate and attractive food and libations
You need to facilitate introductions and provide ground rules
You need to ensure your guests are comfortable (physically and emotionally)
You need to have a backup plan if anything goes wrong, and a plan for cleanup
Tip #1: Learn how to host first
If you have never thrown any kind of party yourself, or haven't yet thrown a great one, your first step should just be getting comfortable in the host role. Just throw some parties. Whatever kind of parties you like. And do it until they feel fun and easy. If you're hoping to throw small, intimate orgies, maybe start by having small intimate dinner parties. If the sex parties you want to have are big, anonymous, 50 person bangers, then start throwing wild dance parties for your friends (and their friends) on a Saturday night. You get the idea.
This is especially important because, like any party, a sex party can be good, bad or ugly. And if you're the host, that will largely depend upon you. You should (in my view) take that responsibility very seriously. As much as a sex party is just a party, and dependent on many of the same elements, the stakes of what could go "wrong" at a sex party tend to be higher, and the better you can vet people, prepare people, and establish and maintain norms for people, the less likely it is anything will go seriously awry.
But if you're an excellent host already, you know all this. So let's move on...
Sex Party: Location, Location, Location
Step one, as you probably already know, is to identify a good party location. It should be :
Near enough to where you want to be
Accommodate the people you expect and the activities you plan
Adequately private
If you can swing it, a hot tub - notoriously - really pulls the orgy together.
The best place for a party like this, especially your first one, is often your home or that of a friend. House parties are comfortable and often private. That is where I would start, if possible. If that's not possible for whatever reason, I'll list below a range of location options that might inspire you.
Outdoors, somewhere private (if Burning Man can find a way, so can you!). Camping?
House party (if possible)
AirBNB can be great, but is tricky (we discuss this on episode 1 and 3).
Make sure you aren't violating the rules of the property with your event (that doesn't mean I suggest you tell them you're having an orgy, but read the rules)
Make sure you're caring for the space
Be aware of any audio/video recording equipment on site
Hotel rooms can work, but you'll want to keep it relatively small and short (if it isn't a hotel takeover)
Small private event space, such as an art gallery (with permission of the owner)
Big private event space (rent out a sex club, dungeon, hotel, cruise ship, or nightclub) when you're ready for that (and then send me an invite, you legend!)
Make sure the venue is fully aware of what will be going on, and that it is legal in your locality
If all of this is illegal in your locality, please consider the stakes very carefully, and if you do decide to go forward at all, probably stick to a private house party. Stay safe, slutty friends!
Sex Party Guests : How do I find guests?
This is the million-dollar question. I know a lot of you are thinking, 'cut to the chase Cleo! I can throw a damn party, but I don't have anyone I want to invite to it. Help me out!' And I absolutely will in my very next post, Part 2.
Can't wait. See you all in a few days!
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